The Elusive Teenager

Looking through my parents photo collection you'd think my teenage years didn't even exist, but we all know painfully well they DID.

Now that I'm a grown up I wish I had a stack of pictures epitomizing my adolescent years.

But you guys....I'm beginning to understand how difficult capturing a teen in a photo can be.

Today is bandana day at school.

She looks so grown up and so 80s-big-hair-band-cool!

I tried to take a picture of her to send to Dennis.

After an eye roll, and a "MOM. STOP!" she was out of the car before my crappy phone camera could react.

Annnndddd this is all I got.

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Hi. My name is Mom. That burnt, cold food must be mine.

Whenever somebody pukes, pees or shits on the floor I get to clean it up… “Hey mom, I know you’re in the shower but the dog pooped in the livingroom…”

And ever since the kids came along Dennis assumes I no longer want to sleep in.  “Well, you get up with the kids so…” Um…yea.  Because somebody has to.

Oh, that burger fell off the grill and into the dirt?  That's ok. Mom will eat it.

You guys, 
I haven’t had a hot meal in years.  Especially when we go out to dinner.  I order, get my drink, wait 10 minutes and somebody has to pee or wash their hands-or both.  I go to the bathroom, they take FOREVER to do their business and I’m greeted by my plate of food when I get back to the table.  Dennis is half way through his dinner with a look that says, "Geesh, what took you so long?”

As soon as I close the bathroom door, someone is on the other side.  “Mom?  Are you in there?  Can I have some soup?” “I need you to sign this paper for school”…huh?  I was just sitting on the couch for an hour, but now that I'm taking a crap you have something to show me.

I do all the cooking, cleaning, and laundry.  You think I could get some help?  Yes. They help. But when I say something, they act like I just told them to go out and pick up dog poop.  With their hands. Hey kids...It’s just a load of clean towels-fold them and shush.

I’d like a meal every now and then where I don’t have to say “Stop farting at the table!”  

Sometimes I think, “OMG, we need to just get out of the house.  Let’s go to dinner, or the movies-the zoo.  Anywhere.  I’m going nuts.  Then we go, and I regret it immediately.  I spend the whole car ride saying “keep your hands to yourself, god I wish we had a DVD player in here-but then they would just fight about what to watch, settle down, sit up, sit back, roll up your window..."

I put a hamper in the bathroom.  They throw their clothes at it. 
Walk into my bathroom and you'll assume somebody must have gotten into a fight with the tube of toothpaste. 

As if I didn’t have a hard enough time keeping up with the normal disgustingness of my house, I find dirty clothes all over…socks here and there.  Jammies from this morning.  And garbage!  Used tissues, old napkins and shrapnel from crafty projects.  

This is my everyday.

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Why I Can't Have Nice Things

cat piss in my house

I’m sitting in my dining room as I write to you. The leg of the table more resembles the end of a raw-hide bone than a carefully crafted wooden work of art. The varnished top, beautifully shining except for the silhouette of a girl scout sash eaten into the finish by the E6000 that oozed through the fabric and adhered the damn thing to the table while I glued on all the iron-on-my-ass (liars) patches. I still make my kids use placemats at mealtimes and lay down newspaper before crafting-habit I guess because there is absolutely no point.

From where I’m sitting I can’t see the hole my dog chewed in the family room rug because I strategically place the coffee table leg over it. Yes, the coffee table is split down the middle and I am totally aware that it clashes both in style and finish with the rest of the room. I decided it would be better suited as a porch coffee table, so I put it out there last year. The boards separated due to weathering and I considered throwing it to the curb. After my dog ate the leather ottoman I resorted to bringing it back into the house in lieu of having nothing to put my feet up on. Good thing too because without it I don’t know what my kids would slosh their cereal milk all over if it wasn’t here.

The T.V. is old, but it works and therefore is still in the room. I don’t get to watch it anymore, but that’s another story. The story is short: Kid eats snack at broken coffee table, kid has remote on the floor. Mom tells kid to pick it up so the dog doesn’t eat it. Kid nods without listening. Dog eats remote and now T.V. is stuck on the cartoon network, aka the-station-with-the-most-annoying-cartoons-known-to-moms. Now, sure, I could go to the cable company and pay for a new remote, but what would that teach my kids? Except for one painful flaw in my parenting tactic-while I’m teaching my kids a lesson I’m torturing myself.

*Good Mornin’. Good Mornin!*-Sweet Baby Jesus, I’ll be singing that damn song in my head all morning. That guy. The brainiac producer behind Uncle Grandpa is apparently some kind of idiot genius who’s living large off this stupid inbred creation while I pinch my heel in between the fucking boards of my coffee table and spill food down the front of myself daily.

I used to have nice things. Actually no I didn’t.

Before I had kids and pets to ruin my stuff I had no money to buy anything outside of things to sustain our mere existence, like food and shelter. All of our furniture was given to us or bought second hand. The ONE AND ONLY new piece…like went-to-the-store-and-picked-it-out NEW is a leather reclining couch. It’s awesome, comfortable and easy to clean. Also, three months after buying it we moved into our current house and, while carrying it out of the moving truck and into the house, a friend of ours-let’s call him Mark-dropped his end into the split rail fence and ripped a hole into back of the damn thing. Under normal circumstances no one would ever know. Under current circumstances the couch sits in front of a huge picture window and the hole is visible to all who enter.

Welcome to my home. You are not mistaken.That probably is cat piss you smell. My fat cat decided the walk from her favorite place to loaf is way too far from the litter box so she pissed right there in the hall. Apparently many times. I bought a carpet cleaner to battle the stench but getting rid of cat urine is not easy. I run that bitch every few months over the area. One of two things are happening there-the residue resurfaces periodically releasing more stink or my other cats think it’s a pit stop. Probably both things are happening actually. I’m not even going to discuss my bonus room turned cat room. I’m happy to have a room to lock up my over-sized rodents, but seriously. It’s disgusting. I don’t know how crazy cat ladies do it. Cats themselves are clean creatures but their habitats are filth. Aside from the hair-covered surfaces (an obvious by-product) I have one cat who likes to dump the water bowl, one cat who eats too fast and pukes and one cat who has to dig so deep in the litter she’s chucking turds and litter out of the box. The other two have decided that pile of litter on the floor must be a third option to piss in so combine all that with my laziness and it pretty much smells like a cavy nest back there.

One by one all of my tasteful knickknacks and decoration pieces have been destroyed. I’ve replaced them with nothing. I cleaned the house yesterday. This place is an echo chamber. Throw pillows: eaten. Antique baskets: eaten. Magazine basket: pissed in then thrown away. Couch blankets: chewed. Did I mention one of my cats likes to jump up on furniture and knock things off for my dog to eat? Yeah. That’s happening too. It’s like I’m living with a furry team of assholes.

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Things always happen for a reason.

Life is just a bunch of choices and their results.

Some people think those choices happen randomly in some willy-nilly hap-hazardly kind of way.

I think those choices are the ones we’re supposed to make, and everything happens for a reason.

I don’t believe there is some alternate universe where our other selves are living with the other choices we could’ve made like some janky version of the Butterfly Effect.

I don’t believe in thinking about the choices I should’ve or could’ve made because the choices I made were the ones I was supposed to make.

Obviously it’s not always clear why the choices were meant to be until time works everything out for the better.

And even things we have no control over happen just the way they should, although it’s often hard to deal with the agony of waiting for the lesson to become clear.

Five years ago we were living in a severely declining neighborhood. We felt trapped and feared for our safety and for our children’s future. We desperately wanted to move back to our small town and decided it was now or never. As the housing market plummeted, we realized two things: We needed to take advantage of the low price of a new house for our family, and we needed to be willing to give up everything to make it happen.

With an outstanding credit score and our entire life savings in hand, we bought a house in the small town we grew up loving. Out past the corn fields where the woods got heavy…

It was agonizing, and terrifying….but we escaped.

Paying two mortgages was a daunting outlook, especially as we watched the value of our first house continue to decline. We realized we would never sell the house anywhere near the price we needed just to break even and it was heartbreaking. As we started making minor repairs and discussed becoming landlords my husband got laid off.

So there we were. Standing in the house of our dreams, still paying for the house we emotionally lost and knowing we were most likely going to financially lose one of them.

The silver lining, if it can at all be viewed as one, is that the bank recognized my husband’s work status as a hardship and agreed to sell the old house for less than what we owed in what’s called a short sale. Basically the bank appraises the house, determines what it’s worth and agrees to accept that amount for the house. We had five months to sell the house for half of what we owed. A date was set for foreclosure, notarized court documents were sent and all that was left to do was wait. And hope.

We got an offer, the bank accepted, financial drama and bullshit ensued but in the end we found ourselves at the closing table. In exchange for our fantastic credit, a signature here and there and a small bit of our dignity we sold the house.

We were lucky, and the things that happened throughout the ordeal were not exactly typical but for those of you questioning how we got through something like that unscathed, please know that we did not. Without spilling too many details, I can tell you we are still financially affected by the decisions we made. I can tell you we were willing to do much worse than we had to. And I can also tell you I am grateful every day that we're raising our kids where we are and not where we were.

Many times I suppressed my feelings of joy for buying our new house with the feelings of regret and shame for the way we had to sell our old one. I remember feeling like I didn’t deserve to feel happiness, and instead chose to feel only gratitude instead.

Many times I thought quietly to myself that my husband’s lay off was meant to be, because clearly we needed him to travel that path in order to sell the old house and move on.

So I chose to be grateful for his lay off, and grateful to suffer the burden of financial hardship because it was worth it to live here, and the reasons for his lay off seemed so perfectly clear.

Then we got word that my 52 year old brother-in-law, my husband’s only brother, had stage 4 esophageal cancer. He’d never been married, and had no children. My husband was his only family close enough to care for him. Fortunately he was laid off and was able to care for him. For what seemed to be the longest and shortest month and a half we’d ever lived, my husband was his chauffeur, his prescription filler, his grocery getter, his sandwich maker, his shoulder, his brother to lean on both figuratively and physically through his last days.

I stood there in disbelief looking at his feet. His bare feet were sticking out of the end of the hospital bed sheet that was haphazardly thrown over his body, tubes coming out of his mouth, wires and IVs connected to his lifeless body-all left over from failed attempts to revive him.

He’d called the ambulance himself. He couldn’t breathe. By the time they reached him he was unresponsive and wasn’t breathing on his own.

Heart attacks are common with chemo. It thickens the blood.

When the nurses and doctors met us in the hallway and took us into a small room with a vase full of fake flowers and asked us to sit down, and started talking to us in an apologetic tone, I felt like telling them to shut up. I felt like telling them to spare the drama and the desensitized version of sympathy and just let us in to see him. But I didn’t. And if you’re ever faced with the question, “Would you like us to take all the tubes and IVs out, sort of prepare him for you to see him?” say yes. Because we said no.

So I stared at his feet and tried to wipe the image of his mouth full of tubes from my mind, but I still can’t. I stared at his feet and tried to think of happy things like how we used to make fun of his finger-toes. And how, during that one trip to Wisconsin, he ran around the lobby of the hotel while we were checking in and almost shit his pants trying to find the restroom.

Over on the chair were his things. His jacket, carefully folded and hung over the back of the chair. His clothes in an orderly pile, topped with his wallet and keys. His shoes tucked neatly under the chair.

I kept waiting for the sheet to rise as he took a breath, but my heart knew he was gone.

In that moment my heart also knew why husband got laid off, and it had nothing to do with selling a house.

I have no classy way to transition you into the rest of this post other than just telling you to blow your nose and throw away your tissue…I won’t make you cry any more today, unless you’re like me and like to re-read well-written posts.

I went back to college because I wanted a career to help our family in a more significant financial way, but I knew it would have to be something meaningful and significant or I would be unwilling to commit myself to it. Teaching was the only logical choice for me, and so I began a journey.

And when I wrote an essay in Western Philosophy that received high accolades from a professor with rough edges and a tough hand for high marks it lit a flame inside of me. It was the same flame that was first lit so long ago when a woman named Alice Dickerson read the childhood poetry I wrote, looked me dead in the eyes and made me promise to never stop writing.

I broke that promise for many years. Many years while I was busy doing better things, or too sad and alone to have an ounce of inspiration within me, but I never forgot her words.

So when the letter arrived inviting me to join the writing fellowship at my college, I kindly declined with gratitude for being considered.

Let me tell you.

I didn’t want to go to school on student loans, and with our financial situation in a state of constant movement I realized I was not going to be able to go to school the way I wanted by paying as I went.

After watching several schools in my area close and consolidate students and teachers, after calculating the amount of debt I would have to acquire in exchange for a degree that I may or may not be able to get a job with in a school or area I wanted to work in, I reluctantly faced reality.

Even though I only went back to school for a short time, it gave me the drive and confidence to know I can write.

So naturally, I began blogging.

Blogging gives me the validation I need to keep writing because people enjoy reading what I write. Blogging makes me feel like Alice Dickerson made the ten-year-old-Adrienne (because I was, afterall, born with an E) feel about writing. Blogging makes me feel like I felt when I sat quietly in a classroom full of great writers angrily and frustratedly talking to each other loudly about the Bs and Cs they received on their essays and spoke not a word about the A+ that was clenched in my hand.

I began blogging because someday I would need a reference for my ability to write.

Then I had an interview for the secretary position at the small town school I went to and my husband went to and my kids go to. Although I knew it was foolish for me to get my hopes up too high for the position-the job that I was absolutely sure was perfect for me in every way-I was way up there in the clouds. So it hurt pretty badly when I came crashing down, and I had to swallow the lump in my throat. The lump of rejection.

But I believe every single thing happens for a reason.

Afterall, that is the reason for this post that seems to have no end…but fear not-it does, and thank you for still hanging in there.

Because if I would’ve gotten that job that I thought at the time was the perfect job for me I wouldn’t have gotten the job I have. The one that is perfect for me that I didn’t even know I was qualified to have. I was. I am.  And I am in love with my job.

I teach kids how to love reading.

Well, that’s not actually my technical job title, but that’s what I’m doing.

So when I see the sparkle in a child’s eye, a sparkle that was put there by a book or story and when I witness a child connect with a story and look forward to reading and WANT to read, and everytime a child stops by my door, peeks in and says, “Can we read today?” my heart knows this is where I belong.

Because everything happens for a reason.

And I know there is more for me than just blogging. I feel it. I have more to write than what will ever be contained between the pages of interwebs.

Last night I was walking through the fair, and someone crouched in the corner of a game booth was drawing a sketch on a white pad of paper. Without looking up he said to me, “You need to be writing.” It was not the only dream I had this week with the same orders.

I’m listening.

I won’t stop writing here. I will stop by from time to time in a random, non-scheduled way with nonsense to share because I love nonsense.

And I promise to waste time on social media, so go follow me on facebook.

But there is more for me to do.

If you’re afraid you might miss my sporadic posts, I’ll be the first to tell you you’re not crazy. It’s a genuine fear, since Facebook doesn’t always tell you what I’m doing and although I’m trying really hard at Twitter and G+ I currently suck at them. The only way to truly be sure you will always see what I write is to subscribe by email by entering your email address here. I promise I will not spam you.


My life as a mom.

what it's like to be a mom

You’ve had to choose between taking a nap and taking a shower.

You’ve thought about putting vodka in your coffee.

You never pee or poop uninterrupted.

Instead of looking in your dresser drawers you dig through laundry baskets for clean clothes.

You can clean up puke without gagging.

You have crayons in your purse.

You’ve cleaned another human being’s face off with your own spit.

You’ve washed boogers off the wall.

You have grocery store stickers on your car windows.

You could survive for a week on the scraps of food you’ve got under your car seats.

A thousand pictures were taken on your family vacation and you’re in two of them.

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Life Lessons in Kid Sports

kid sports

We’re in the midst of raising a generation full of kids who feel they’re entitled to have things without earning them. We are developing a society lacking in perseverance and responsibility. Now, don’t get me wrong…hard work and accountability are still out there, just not as affluent as they once were.

There’s not one big reason why this is happening. There are many little reasons.

It’s like a jigsaw puzzle. Each piece by itself seems unimportant but if you align all the little pieces together you’re going to create a big picture. Each piece by itself seems insignificant but is so important in the end.
I believe a piece of this sense-of-entitlement puzzle may be how we’re introducing sports and competition to our kids.

Our current efforts to protect our children’s feelings during sports are actually doing them more harm than good. Sports are supposed to be competitive yet when kids are young we don’t keep score because we don’t want the kids on the losing team to be unhappy. Kids are smarter than we’re giving them credit for. They know the intended outcome of any game is to have a winner and a loser. It’s a game and if you’re not keeping score then it’s no longer a game, it’s just practice. Funny thing is, even though the coaches, parents and officials aren’t keeping score, the kids usually are anyway.

So what’s wrong with not keeping score?

It’s teaching our kids to believe winning is just as good as not winning. In life some people win. Not everybody wins, and it’s ok not to win all the time. Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. We’re missing out on an opportunity to teach our kids not to be sore losers, but rather how to be good sports. Why does society think we’re doing our kids a favor by waxing over this life lesson? Our job as parents is to prepare our children to be positive, responsible and hard working adults. When they’re adults they need to be able to handle losing. They need to be able to get up, brush themselves off and know that losing is ok and sometimes it’s necessary to learn from mistakes and try harder to achieve their goals.

Everybody makes the team.

I understand and agree with young children being given the opportunity to sign up and play a sport regardless of thier abilities because it's the only way for them to learn about the sport and know whether or not they will enjoy playing it. The problem is we’ve abolished tryouts and “making cuts” for the older kids too-sometimes even into middle school-because kids are upset and feel rejected when they don’t make the team. This used to be an opportunity to teach our children how to persevere and deal with disappointment constructively.  The lesson we’re giving them now is that everyone deserves an equal opportunity to play even if they aren’t very good. This is not reality. Why should a kid practice their skills and focus any extra time and effort into making themselves a stronger athlete if they’re going to make the team anyway, regardless of how they prepare themselves for the season? Real life doesn’t mirror this image. You do not grow up to be an adult and get a job or keep a job just because you want to be part of a company. You have to work hard, strive for excellence and be the best you can be. You have to interview and impress, and if you’re rejected you have to be able to dust yourself off and try again somewhere else. Disappointments are a part of life. You cannot avoid them, you have to learn how to deal with them.

Everybody gets a medal.

Earning a medal used to be a big deal. Maybe you did something that deserved recognition. Maybe you scored the winning point. Maybe you were a very valuable player and deserved an extra pat on the back. Obviously kids who didn’t get a medal wished they had one. I’m sure there were many times when, on the way home from the sports banquet, there were a few kids who were upset about not getting a medal and felt really sad or mad about it and their parents taught them it’s okay to be sad but more importantly it’s okay to be happy for someone else’s accomplishments. It’s okay to praise another human being, let them have the spotlight. A good human quality to possess is the ability to be truly and genuinely be happy for someone else.
When everybody gets a medal everybody is happy for themselves. Not everybody earned a medal, but everybody expects to be given one because that’s the fair thing to do. We’re teaching our kids to feel entitled to things they didn’t earn. We’re so worried about our kids being sad we’d rather just give them something to shut them up rather than teach them how to sort out and deal with their feelings. Teach them how to persevere. Teach them that life isn’t fair and if you want a medal then you have to work really hard, and if you do your very best and you still don’t get a medal, it’s ok. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Maybe your strength is elsewhere.

Giving everyone a medal is celebrating mediocrity.

This nation was built on the drive to be better than the others. It was built by people who persevered. They set goals and attained them. Why would somebody work so hard to earn a medal if they knew they were just going to get one anyway, no matter how much or how little they worked? The kid sitting on the bench all season doesn’t have to practice harder or set goals to better himself if in the end he’ll shine in the glory of a spotlight just the same as the star player.

We are just here to have fun.

Well, duh. But not really because remember-it’s a game and in the end there has to be a winner and a loser. It’s fun, but it’s competitive fun. It’s adrenaline-pumping-heart-racing fun. It’s suspenseful and strategic and has a purpose and a goal-to win! Kids play on the playground just for fun. Kids climb trees and ride bikes just for fun. When kids play tag or hide-n-go-seek it’s for fun AND they want to win. Because they are games, and games have winners and losers.

Sports should teach kids to persevere.

There is no better way to teach a lesson, especially to children, than a real life something-that-is-happening-to-you lesson. If our kids do not understand it’s okay to lose then they will have trouble handling losing. It’s our job as parents to teach them there is nothing wrong with losing sometimes. Life isn’t about fair. It never has been and never will be.

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Cleaning Sucks and I'm Not Afraid to Show It.

I was never a great housekeeper, but before we had kids I always reserved one day a week to totally clean the apartment from top to bottom. On cleaning day I would wash every dirty dish, dust, vacuum, sweep, mop, clean mirrors, scrub the tub, toilet and sinks…change the sheets, make the bed. A clean apartment usually lasted a couple days since it was just the two of us. Back then I thought I was busy.

Too busy to keep up on the housework of a two bedroom apartment that housed two adults and a cat.

Fast forward 5 years, two apartments and a house later plus a baby and I still sucked at the housework. The only difference between then and prior to then was the weekly cleaning day. When you have a baby there is no such thing as a cleaning day…and if by some weird miracle you get a whole afternoon to yourself you are A.) not going to spend it cleaning the house and B.) even if you did, a few hours later it would look the same as it did before you cleaned so what’s the point?

After baby #2, housework was done the same as before baby #2-not often and not well. Once I got a handle on wrangling two toddlers through the day I started looking on the internet for helpful tips on how to de-clutter and keep the house tidy with two kids under 3 in tow. I thought there must have been some secret other moms knew that I hadn’t figured out yet.

I was convinced the way I was living was NOT the norm. Surely other homes were clean and well organized. I obviously didn’t get out much, and had no idea there were hundreds of moms blogging about their own messy chaotic lives that mirrored my own.

Somewhere in my internet search I stumbled across the FLY Lady’s website.

Reading through all of her cleaning and life-organizing tips really inspired me to get my shit together and lead a clean and organized life...

I did everything she told me to do: I created my control journal, made my daily lists of chores, bought a new pair of shoes to wear around the house, shined my sink (not ever night, but dammit I tried like hell)…if I wouldn’t have been so poor  I would’ve definitely bought her calendar and anything else she was peddling. I was sucked in hard.

Things were going well with FLY Lady’s coaching

…for about a week.

 I just couldn’t keep it up.

Here’s the thing-I think FLY Lady is awesome…she’s got great ideas and her site is full of great organizational advice. The reason her plan didn’t work for me was completely due to user error. I’m lazy and my track record for sticking with something for any good length of time is horrible.  I’ve amazed myself by writing this blog for over a year now…FLY Lady told me it takes 30 days of doing a task to make it a habit. In my case I think it has more to do with me being able to wear sweatpants while reclining on the couch and eating chip crumbs off my shirt as I write that makes me able to do it consistently.

My relationship with housework has evolved as I’ve gotten older.

I used to wish my house was more presentable…now I don’t care.

I used to stress over cleaning the house for company.

Now I don’t care.
I’ve realized and accepted I’m just too creative to clean and expect those around me to except this  fact as well.  I’m also lazy and housework can fuck off.

Now…with all that said, I do try not to let things get disgusting.
Except for my fridge which is often disgusting and my family knows not to dig too deep for something to eat, but aside from my fridge I try not to let things get too gross.

My method of dividing the house is not traditional, and I wrote about that already. You can read it here.
I dust when I notice shit needs dusted. I sweep when dust bunnies start tumble-weeding across the floors. I scrub the toilets-because, seriously…you never know when somebody might get sick, and who wants to puke in a nasty toilet? I drag the carpet cleaner out every time the dog pisses on the carpet or the cat pukes, so there are parts of my carpet that are very clean. I wash table tops and mirrors. I wash rugs when necessary. My sink gets shined during the off chance it’s not full of dirty dishes and I notice the filth all those dishes have been hiding. Sheets get changed, laundry gets washed, candles are burned when it starts smelling like a zoo.

Basically shit gets done.

And I’m not stressed about it.

Do I care if you stop by and see my couch full of clean laundry?  Or my kitchen sink full of dirty dishes?  Or my kid’s crafty bullshit all over the table? Or toys all over the floor? Or that my coat closet looks like this? Nope.

And because chances are good that I spent my time doing things I enjoy…like baking cookies, writing or playing Monopoly with my kids.

And I always seem to have plenty of time to waste on the interwebs of course.

As my kids get older, they help out more…and naturally I’ll have more time to spend cleaning the house as my kids grow up-whether I will want to spend my time cleaning is yet to be determined.
Chances are good that I probably won’t.


Are we raising a society of non-handwashers?

I went back to college last year.

I learned a lot of stuff.

Things like…
I think I get smarter as I age.
I’m still not a huge fan of History.
I wish I would’ve gone to college right after high school or at least before I had kids.
19 year olds think I’m old.
A lot of parent’s hard earned money is being wasted.
19 year olds are annoying.
85% of women don’t wash their hands after going to the bathroom.

I’m just appalled by this statistic. It’s my own statistic, no formal research…but I’m pretty sure it’s pretty accurate and there’s a good chance I’m being a generous. I can tell you I stood in the ladies room about a million times waiting for my turn, watching girl after girl after girl leave the stall, fix her hair, grab her backpack and walk out the door. YAK! And some of those girls were in classes with me. Touching the door knobs, chairs, vending machine buttons, borrowing my pens. Sick.

I stood there so many times, completely disgusted…and after using the restroom myself I washed my hands like a surgeon-sudsing up the backs of my hands and fingernails, then drying my hands with a paper towel and using the paper towel to open the door and escape the living, breathing petri dish.

And here’s the thing…all the ladies waiting in line to use the next available stall looked at me like I was some kind of lunatic.

Excuse me if I don’t want to carry traces of your urine and fecal matter around on the tips of my fingers.

For every woman I’ve seen disregard the importance of washing their hands after going to the bathroom, there are probably a hundred more. And we’d be foolish to think they’re just doing this at school. They’re doing this everywhere.

(and let’s not forget these are educated college students)

Where are their mothers? Isn’t this a fundamental hygiene lesson we teach our kids? Didn’t they learn how important it is to wash their hands on a regular basis, especially when they go to the bathroom? Maybe not. I mean, these women will someday be mothers and they’re not washing their hands….maybe their mothers DID NOT tell them the importance of washing their hands after going to the bathroom….so will they teach their own kids to wash up?

There have been times when another mom accuses my kids of having some kind of OCD problem when they ask me for some hand sanitizer before eating in a restaurant. Have you swabbed a menu lately? I haven’t…but I bet it’s full of germs I don’t want in my mouth or my kid’s mouths.

Are we really raising a society of non-hand washers? This is a serious issue. These people are working in restaurants, touching and preparing food. They’re waitresses and hostesses working their way through college. Are we to believe by posting a sign on the restroom wall that states: “Employees must wash their hands before returning to work” they are actually doing it? Maybe.

But probably not. 

I’m afraid this epidemic is not limited to young educated women. It’s men too. People all over the country are not washing their hands after using the restroom.

Instead of pretending a stupid sign saying they MUST means they ARE…we should start making signs containing facts.

Maybe if people know WHY they should be washing their hands after using the restroom they WILL.

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This is today.

Let me bring you up to speed.

We had a half day of school last Friday. It was Valentine’s Day and we had a busy weekend ahead of us so it was nice to have some extra time to prepare for it.

Yesterday was President’s day. We did not have school.

Last night, about 5pm we were hit with a snow storm that dumped more than 5 inches on us in less than 3 hours.

Then the wind picked up, gusting near 30 mph.

Do you know what a shit-ton of snow+30 mph wind gusts do to rural roads?

They drift shut. Like, seriously-road closed.

But because I kept hope alive that school would be in session, I spent the better part of yesterday helping my kid put her Science Fair project together-it was due today. We worked on it until 10pm.

We got the call from the school alert system at 5am this morning telling us that school was closed.

So we are home again. This is the 15th snow day we’ve had this winter.

(Reminder: I work at the school. On the rare occasion we actually have school)

My husband is laid off.

This means we’ve had a lot of family time.

And you would think with all this unexpected free time I would be getting all kinds of shit done.

I’m not.

I have zero motivation.

I have zero desire to do anything.

This morning I took a dump with the bathroom door open.

I'm talking to the dogs like they know what I'm saying.

And I give zero craps about it.           

This is what today looks like: